The moment you deviate. Correct it.
Decide.
What is the use of thinking?
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Read patiently to clear your mind of baseless overthinking.
To burn every bit of life on this planet Earth? Or, to generate, nourish and sustain life and to give light. What if it suddenly goes out of control and rushes towards us?
Have a core belief that, nothing is worth ruining even one precious moment of my life, nothing is the end of the world, and that peaceful existence is my ultimate goal like the entire nature.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
Learn for the future.
Focus on solving and moving to the next problem.
When you are thinking about an event where someone mildly insulted you in front of a crowd, let's say they greeted everybody else and not you. I agree, It's sad and painful, it should trigger anger, and that's okay. But what happens next is unbelievable.
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Can you roll your eyes to your foolish thoughts?
‘No, that's stupid, what's relevant, what best can be done?’
‘What am I doing?’
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The purpose of thinking is-
‘It's not a life or death threat, it's over, it's small.’
To find a solution, an active solution.
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it's like scratching a painful wound and then regretting it later.
Sometimes, you wake up at night post a nightmare with real body reactions like chills, heart beating fast, sweating. But, was the dream real? Your mind only percieved it to be real due to lack of the thought of illusion, and same happens when people become anxious.
You start thinking about what each one present there would be thinking, about similar events that happened throughout life, you try to explore that person's reasons and thoughts behind that action and zero in on the worst possible reason, while that fool simply forgot that they didn't greet you already. You question your esteem and identity, ‘he did that because I earn less, I am not worthy of respect. When my day comes, he will get it back with interest.’
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What's the purpose?
if you thought about something in a way, and there was nothing to do; no results, it must not be repeated, no more thinking about it. Reread this.
What's the purpose of the sun?
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The worst people do is to repeat the same thought again and again. It's like banging our head repeatedly on a wall in anger.
Wake yourself up.
Why don't you focus on the ‘purpose of thinking’ more than merely thinking, that is, to find a solution or a path to a solution?
How do you handle family members who ask for handouts?
Relive relevant moments.
Any external information is like a detail in a mathematics sum for you. It needs to be used well to identify the correct formula and steps to a solution.It's not written for continuous attention and thinking and dwelling on it.
The solution was simple, if that person is close and this is the first time, ask them. If they are a repeated offender and not so close, simply ditch them, and disown them. ‘Not my friend anymore. I won't pay attention to him.’ That's about it, you are free to enjoy peace of mind and life.
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You are connecting dots, but without any intelligence, simply creating random dots and joining them creating a complex spiral of thoughts leading to nowhere except chaos.
Let's discuss an example.
Remind us of essons and learnings to deal with life.
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Overthinking gives you instant peace, you know why Because it stabilises and focuses your mind, it clears any confusion caused by positive options. It makes you forget your life and hop between thoughts.
Protect us.
Always realise the purpose of thinking and don't deviate from it.
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Why don't you simply realise that you are merely thinking and not be one with your thoughts and start living them?
Always wake up in the moment of overthinking and shouting stop in your mind.
To make you insane and run behind millions of useless thoughts forming chains and spirals?
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‘C'mon, get going, nothing happened.’
Anubhav Jain
